A day in the online addiction zone

Today I had a plan. Alongside some housework and other such excitements I was going to spend some time “writing stuff down” to help support my forthcoming sessions with my social worker.

Today what I actually did was tweet a little, surf online rather a lot, and spend much time reading other adopter’s blogs. I think pretty well all the blogs I read today were written by those already matched and living with their children, and recounting their experiences, their emotions, their tangles, their joys, their challenges, their pain, their patience, their love.

The love shines through.

Yet so, over and again, does the tiredness, the sense of defeat, the worry, the ache.

My own emotions have today travelled the same journey. I am sure of my path, but I am also so so aware of the many potholes and the floods along the way, and the way that these spring up without warning (yes a topical metaphor for once!). It has been like an addiction as I went from one blog to another, one timeline to a second.

It has definitely been a day of learning as well as of reading. A day of hope; a day of trepidation; a day of insight.

Above all, today has been a day when I have, again, questioned whether I can do this and whether I can do it alone. I am so grateful to all the adoptive parents who have helped me again to think and to challenge my own assumptions. I recognise that asking these questions of myself is vital. I shall continue to look inwards as well as outwards, and to question myself as well as seeking input from others.

Learning, reading, thinking: a great triumvirate that are no match for experience but will hopefully mean I will at least enter the world of experience with vicarious wisdom and knowledge among my foundation stones. Thank you all for sharing.

About Pedalling Solo

I am a potential adopter in the UK, going it alone as they say. Somehow I've worked my way through lots of paperwork, done lots of learning, become an approved adopter, and navigated matching (hopefully). I am very much learning as I go. This blog is my opportunity to share my learning and experiences and maybe some random musings as I go along as well.
This entry was posted in Adoption and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink.

8 Responses to A day in the online addiction zone

  1. mumdrah says:

    The things you are thinking – the fact you are thinking them – means you’ll be great. You’ll also be challenged and loved and stretched and tickled and exhausted and … A million other things. And you’ll do it all. Sometimes better, sometimes worse. With love Mx

  2. frogotter says:

    I think you’re doing a great thing, researching so much before you’re matched.
    I’m sure you’re finding a lot of different experiences. Hopefully you will soon be adding your own!

  3. solo-man says:

    I’ve just had my own day in the online addiction zone, and ended up here! I’m also a single potential adopter going to panel next week. Thanks for posting about your experiences.

    • Thanks for your comment. Has your panel happened? Great to hear from you – hope it goes/went well. Share more if you feel able, I’m all ears!

      • solo-man says:

        Panel was yesterday, unanimously approved. Hoping to go to matching panel in a month for a lovely little boy under 2.

      • Oh wow. Huge Congratulations. That’s exciting and amazing. You’ve been linked to a little one before your sorry approval panel even happened? That must be mind-blowing.

        So excited for you. I hope if you are daunted that is accompanied by bubbling excitement.

        Congrats for both the panel and the match!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s